I posted an article earlier called "How to Attract the Opposite Sex in Moments?" and the discussion was extremely heated. Brothers still have many questions about the display, such as are photos in Moments really useful? Will chatting be more effective? Is taking photos a good idea? Is it too expensive?
In response to everyone’s doubts, we have selected the 8 most common questions to answer them quickly!
① Which is more effective, presentation or chatting skills? ?
Presentation and chatting skills are essentially ways to whitewash the outside and cannot fundamentally change your ordinary and mediocre inside.
Some boys think that showing off is fake and expensive, but learning chatting skills and speaking skills is more efficient and will be more useful in the future. To be honest, if you think this way, 99% of the time it’s because you don’t have money or you’re stingy—otherwise, it must be two people doing it at the same time.
If you have to answer this question, the answer is definitely the display surface.
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Compared with chatting skills, the display effect is more direct and has a larger scope. When encountering the above types, it can even "defeat the enemy with one move."
Even if your chatting skills are useful at first, it still depends on your true value and appearance. If you get along for a long time and find that you are actually boring, you will still leave - although the display cannot be retained for a long time, at least it has been obtained and the process is very comfortable.
In short, if you want to attract superficial and superficial people, displaying your face is faster than chatting skills. And if you want to attract a good-quality opposite sex, neither of these is crucial.
② How helpful is the display surface for chatting?
It can be said that: on the premise that your chat ability remains unchanged, a good display surface can at least help your chat effect to a higher level. .
The reason is as mentioned earlier: a good presentation allows the other party to leave a better first impression of you, thus increasing your "error tolerance".
If you chat in an ordinary way, the other person will think you are not "boring" but "unsophisticated" because of your presentation; if you don't know how to flirt, the other person will not think you are "uninteresting". But "honesty".
Chatting with boys who present themselves well will also increase girls’ enthusiasm.
When there is no display surface, if you ask a girl what she is doing, the girl will reply to you "lying down", "not doing anything" or "watching TV". With the display surface, the girl will reply to you "I am here" I'm watching Kuangfang at home." "I have nothing to do at home, what about you?"
You can carefully examine the two attitudes of girls and how different the results of the final chat are.
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In addition, if you don’t have a showcase and try to hook up with a girl, or talk in a more ambiguous manner, the girl may immediately avoid you, or even push her away harshly; but if you have a showcase, even if the girl is a little uncomfortable with it, her attitude will become half push, half give, then at least There are further opportunities to come.
The same goes for your chatting skills and words: without a display, the other party will think you are inhuman, and greasy and timid; with a display, the other party will think you are funny and humorous, and your chat skills Easier to work.
The above changes are all because: your first impression has improved, and girls are more willing to take you seriously and be more tolerant of you.
In addition, with a good display, you can more clearly judge a girl’s attitude towards you.
If there is no display and the girl responds negatively or is perfunctory, you can't tell whether it's because you didn't take it seriously because you didn't see the person, or because you didn't have a good conversation.
At this time, because there is no display, it is easier to attribute it to the chat problem, and then crazily "study" the chat technology, and finally become obsessed with it and become addicted to learning.
With a good presentation, if a girl reacts coldly to you:
Then either your presentation is not good enough compared to the other person, causing the other party to ignore you;
Either you are not active enough and have not broken the ice yet;
Or it is not convenient for the girl at this time, so we can talk at another time.
You will find that positioning the problem is clearer and the response is clearer.
In short, a good presentation is the prerequisite for you to have a normal and equal chat with girls. If you don't do it and the girl ignores you and treats you perfunctorily, don't blame the other party for being insincere, and don't worry about whether it's a chat issue. It's because you don't have the qualifications to make the other party respect you.
③I took a personal portrait, why is the effect not good?
Because the display surface ≠ portrait, the effect is not good.
Personal portraits can also be called studio photos, artistic photos, and image photos. Their common characteristic is: too much deliberate traces.
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In the eyes of others, this is a handsomeness that has been carefully prepared and does not represent the true face in real life. So you can't really inspire the other person's goodwill.
What kind of photos are suitable? The answer is simple: handsome everyday photos.
Today, when you were out shopping, walking on the road, or visiting a store, someone took a photo of you while you were not paying attention. You were not in the center of the photo, and you did not deliberately pose "holding it up." There are no "non-daily clothes" like small suits and dresses.
It means you inadvertently move your hands and feet, being photographed in an unintentional environment, not dressed exquisitely, but a little handsome, with movementsBe natural and look relaxed - if you are still handsome like this, then you are really handsome.
Seeing this, you might as well take out your studio photos and compare them.
Another problem with “studio photos” is that they make you “clear”, but they don’t make you “handsome”.
How do you understand? If you go to the photo studio to take pictures with your small eyes and combed hair, the photographer will think: very good, clean and tidy, real.
But in the eyes of the emotional coach, they will think that your glasses are too frustrating and you need to change to contact lenses; if they think your hairstyle is too tacky, you should wash, cut and blow dry it first. When it's time to take pictures, people with small eyes will ask you to wear sunglasses, people with fat people will ask you to wear loose clothes to cover up, and people with bad faces will ask you to use an angle... If you take a picture like this, there is a high probability that it will be a handsome guy.
According to the studio shooting method, your appearance is only faithfully restored, and girls will not like it when they see it.
You may say: Isn’t this kind of shooting a cheating?
First of all, girls can do everything the display asks you to do; secondly, the modifications when taking pictures are just The same logic applies to girls using makeup to cover facial flaws - when you see a girl with exquisite makeup, your eyes will shine more than you despise her makeup. When girls see photos of handsome boys, they think the same way.
Through the display, you can also better understand women’s thinking.
To sum up, the display is not a personal portrait. Your perception is inaccurate and the natural effect is not ideal.
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④. I spent so much money just for a few photos. Is it worth it?
The benefits of taking exhibition photos are not just to get a few handsome photos...
First of all, as mentioned earlier Li: A good presentation is a shortcut to help boys build self-confidence in both sexes. And self-confidence is one of the most important variables in the relationship between the sexes.
In addition, during the photo shoot process, boys’ aesthetic tastes will be broadened and upgraded, and they will know that besides jeans and sportswear, they have more plasticity.
Once again, the richness of boys’ lives has been opened up - trying new restaurants, new social activities and leisure methods has enriched the spare time lives of many straight men.
The penultimate point is an effective channel to understand the characteristics of girls - by imitating the behavior of girls, you can see things from a girl's perspective, so as to understand and understand girls more deeply.
Finally, if you have more common topics in chat with girls and generate more resonance and empathy, the quality of your chat with girls will naturally be higher.
So I have always said: the display is the green channel that takes you into the world of gender.
⑤. Without a display, is it impossible to talk?
No. If you have the following abilities andAnd he is good enough to attract girls by chatting without showing off——
First of all, patience and tenacity.
Because there is no display, the other party has no initial favorable impression of you and is defensive. You need to chat over and over again to slowly resolve it. This is patience.
In addition, during this process, because there is no initial attraction, girls will often doubt you, have no trust in you, or disappear in the middle of the conversation, give perfunctory replies, etc. You must have enough resilience to persevere. .
Secondly, high emotional intelligence and proficiency in female psychology. Only in this way can you firmly catch every word of a girl when there is no trust and attraction, so that the girl feels comfortable chatting with you and is willing to continue chatting with the mysterious you.
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Once again, the personality is full of charm. Because there is no superficial attraction, you must have a strong inner charm - do you have the experience of attracting people? Do you have unique insights and perspectives? You have a unique side that is not scary or annoying. Is it that kind?
If so, you need to say it with high emotional intelligence so that the other party can be more accepting.
Finally, excellent expression skills. If you want to attract girls just by chatting, at least one of your written and oral skills must be top-notch. Otherwise, how can you say something to impress a girl? How can you capture the other person's heart with romantic words when you are in love?
If you have all the above abilities, you can spend a little more time and just chat. Attracting girls.
But - when you have such a high emotional intelligence and your brain is so good, why would you choose such an inefficient method of attraction? (Unless you are really too rich and free, you are just creating problems for yourself. Play)
What’s interesting is: no noble man has ever asked me this question. The people who asked the questions were either paranoid people who studied picking up girls to the point of obsessiveness, or Sanhe masters who had no money, no looks, no brains, no talent, no ability.
The above sentence also mentions an important point: if you don’t have talent, no matter how hard you work, you won’t be able to possess all the above abilities.
So, straight men, please don’t get into trouble.
⑥. What are the advantages and disadvantages of the "aircraft cannon" display?
Advantages:
1) Quickly attract a large number of attention from the opposite sex and effectively expand the base;
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2) The effect is immediate, helping boys get results quickly and take the first step;
3) The photo-taking process allows boys to see a quality lifestyle and broaden their horizons;
4) Follow-up chats are not tiring, because there are girls who will take the initiative with you;
5) Get started quickly and quickly know the standard style of the display.
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Disadvantages:
1 ) In reality and in the photos, your temperament is seriously inconsistent with your quality of life, and you are likely to die in the light;
2) It is easy to attract women with impure purposes such as money worshipers, pretentious women, and materialistic women;
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3) It will cost more to maintain a high-quality character in the future;
4) Let boys misunderstand the definition of "display face".
To sum up, the aircraft and cannon display has its advantages and disadvantages. The advice I often give to boys is: experience the aircraft and cannon display once, which will open your eyes, gain insights, and know that you need to install X in the future. How to operate. After that, it's up to you to choose, whether to continue using airplanes and cannons, or to return to reality.
Exhibition pictures are all advantages, are there no disadvantages?
First of all, I think that for boys, the advantages of being able to take pictures of exhibitions far outweigh the disadvantages, but the existence of disadvantages must be acknowledged. .
Disadvantage 1: Delay in starting emotional learning.
Because the prerequisite for interacting with girls is to have a large enough base, and a large enough base comes from a good display. Therefore, if you want to truly learn about emotions and how to contact girls, showing off is a necessary prerequisite.
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But many boys have a lazy mentality. They want to learn emotions but are unwilling to show off in a way they don’t like, so they always stay outside the door.
They watch the free live broadcasts, look at the cases, and discuss and express themselves in the group, thinking that they are in actual combat, but in reality there are no resources of the opposite sex.
All of this stems from the resistance to the inertia of the display surface.
Disadvantage 2: Becoming lazy and no longer improving
When the display can help you attract enough proactive and enthusiastic girls, you will no longer overcome difficulties and encounter difficulties. If you don't like your presentation and are perfunctory, just pass.
This doesn’t matter to boys who just want to find a girlfriend and have a good relationship, but it becomes a hindrance to those who want to continue to improve themselves.
What’s more, when you meet a girl who doesn’t take the initiative towards you, you won’t feel that there is a communication problem with you, and you will blame it all on the lack of good presentation, so your chatting ability has always been stagnant.
The above two harms are a bit like "happy troubles". The former at least theoretically understands emotions, and the latter is already full. As for the direct harm of the display, I have not discovered it.
⑦. What do girls think of boys taking photos of themselves?
Answer: If you take photos just for the sake of taking photos, most girls will think you are deliberate, hypocritical, and pretentious.
If you do it naturally and show it, girls will be fine.
Moreover, even if girls are disgusted, because you want to do it yourself, why should you care about others?
If you are asking, what are the psychological activities of girls when they see boys showing off? , the answer is as follows——
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First of all, you will think: There is a high probability that this man is not a straight man, because straight men will not take pictures of themselves, nor will they go to these places, let alone take such good pictures or cultivate themselves so well.
Secondly, you will feel: This boy has a lot of interest in life and aesthetics (of course, provided that the photo quality is up to standard).
Again, girls will look at your other displays and try to understand you more comprehensively.
In the end, girls will combine what they see to form a favorability score and a character portrait (all vague feelings) and then decide how to face you (whether to be proactive with you, or not proactive but enthusiastic , still not proactive or enthusiastic, etc.).
It can be seen that the whole process will not cause the disgust that boys are worried about.
In fact, when you look at the psychological activities of girls when they show off, aren’t they exactly the same?
Of course, there are exceptions - for example, girls who are very traditional, introverted, and don’t like to appear in the spotlight. Naturally, they are less receptive to boys who pose for photos, and may even stay away from them.
Speaking of this, a boy slapped his thigh directly: "I'm afraid of scaring these girls, so I don't want to take pictures of the show!"
In my opinion, this is still trying to cover up. .
Make a very simple reasoning: if you don’t show your face, you may save the first impression of a small number of girls, but for the vast majority of girls, they will be passed directly - because you are small. Is it wise to lose too much?
On the other hand: you have a presentation, which first saves the first impression of most girls. Even if you encounter a girl who resists, you still have a chance to explain——</ p>
"Photos only show part of me, there are other sides to me. As an adult, you don't have to look at people to death" - there is a high probability that you can continue to have contact with these girls.
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Therefore, those who are worried that the presentation will scare away girls still don’t even give it a try, so they just talk nonsense.
In the final analysis: Here is something that has many benefits and few disadvantages. Are you willing to truly accept and implement it?
If you just want to take advantage of its benefits and advantages, Then just don't do it.
⑧. I’m going to take photos and show them.What preparations should be made for the face?
First of all, the most practical preparation is to create a personal image - from personal image (hair style, eyebrow shape, body shape, acne removal, etc.) to external wear (clothes and pants) Hats, shoes, accessories, etc.).
Secondly, it is the basic photography ability and awareness.
Ability refers to the basic photography skills and methods you need to know. Awareness means seeing a scene and roughly knowing where to shoot it and how to shoot it, so that the effect will be good. These need to be "smoked" through more practice and more appreciation of good works.
Finally, and most importantly: you need to develop the awareness of recording daily life——
When you see beautiful things, participate in activities, and anything new in life, you will want to record it. ——This is what many boys lack the most.
Answer this question from another angle: Any preparation is divided into a theoretical level and a practical level.
At the practical level, as mentioned before, watch, imitate, test shoot, and actually take action.
As for the theoretical level, it is to understand all aspects of the display first, so that you have a solid foundation in your mind. In practice, you can follow the traces and follow the prescriptions, instead of using everything out of thin air. Go by feel.
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At this point, I have responded to my views on the display, as well as the most common doubts and questions.
I hope to provide those who are biased against presentations with a different perspective on presentations;
To provide some ideas for those boys who have been filming presentations for a long time but have never improved. Suggestions and guidelines;
Provide some inspiration for boys who have been hesitant about whether to take a photo shoot and how to take a photo.
If after reading this article, you are still unsure about the display, have criticisms, or have prejudices, you can send me a private message and I will reply one by one.
If you have made a decision after reading this article and want to understand and take good pictures of the display surface, then you are welcome to learn about my display surface course
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